设置表格CustomDrawCell事件，在表格事件里处理

 private void gridView1_CustomDrawCell(object sender, DevExpress.XtraGrid.Views.Base.RowCellCustomDrawEventArgs e)
        {
            if (e.Column.Name == "gcoperation")//操作
            {
                var row = gridView1.GetRow(e.RowHandle) as SystemConfigModel;
                if (row != null)
                {
                    var but = (DevExpress.XtraEditors.Repository.RepositoryItemButtonEdit)e.Column.ColumnEdit;
                    if (row.disabled.ToString() == "禁用")
                    {
                        but.Buttons[1].Caption = "启用";
                    }
                    else
                    {
                        but.Buttons[1].Caption = "禁用";
                    }
                }
            }
        }