Welcome to the wonderful world of portability... or rather the lack of it. Before we start analyzing these two options in detail and take a deeper look how different operating systems handle them, it should be noted that the BSD socket implementation is the mother of all socket implementations. Basically all other systems copied the BSD socket implementation at some point of time (or at least its interfaces) and then started to evolving it on their own. Of course the BSD socket implementation was evolved as well at the same time and thus systems that copied it later got features that were lacking in systems that copied it earlier. Understanding the BSD socket implementation is the key to understanding all other socket implementations, so you should read about it even if you don't care to ever write code for a BSD system.
There are a couple of basics you should know before we look at these two options. A TCP/UDP connection is identified by a tuple of five values:
{<protocol>, <src addr>, <src port>, <dest addr>, <dest port>}
Any unique combination of these values identifies a connection. As a result, no two connections can have the same five values, otherwise the system would not be able to distinguish these connections any longer.
The protocol of a socket is set when a socket is created with the socket() function. The source address and port are set with the bind() function. The destination address and port are set with the connect() function. Since UDP is a connectionless protocol, UDP sockets can be used without connecting them. Yet it is allowed to connect them and in some cases very advantageous for your code and general application design. In connectionless mode, UDP sockets that were not explicitly bound when data is sent over them for the first time are usually automatically bound by the system, as an unbound UDP socket cannot receive any (reply) data. Same is true for an unbound TCP socket, it is automatically bound before it will be connected.
If you explicitly bind a socket, it is possible to bind it to port 0, which means "any port". Since a socket cannot really be bound to all existing ports, the system will have to choose a specific port itself in that case (usually from a predefined, OS specific range of source ports). A similar wildcard exits for the source address, which can be "any address" (0.0.0.0 in case of IPv4 and :: in case of IPv6). Unlike in case of ports, a socket can really be bound to "any address" which means "all source IP addresses of all local interfaces". If the socket is connected later on, the system has to choose a specific source IP address, since a socket cannot be connected and at the same time be bound to any local IP address. Depending on the destination address and the content of the routing table, the system will pick an appropriate source address and replace the "any" binding with a binding to the chosen source IP address.
By default, no two sockets can be bound to the same combination of source address and source port. As long as the source port is different, the source address is actually irrelevant. Binding socketA to A:X and socketB to B:Y, where A and B are addresses and X and Y are ports, is always possible as long as X != Y holds true. However, even if X == Y, the binding is still possible as long as A != B holds true. E.g. socketA belongs to a FTP server program and is bound to 192.168.0.1:21 and socketB belongs to another FTP server program and is bound to 10.0.0.1:21, both bindings will succeed. Keep in mind, though, that a socket may be locally bound to "any address". If a socket is bound to 0.0.0.0:21, it is bound to all existing local addresses at the same time and in that case no other socket can be bound to port 21, regardless which specific IP address it tries to bind to, as 0.0.0.0 conflicts with all existing local IP addresses.
Anything said so far is pretty much equal for all major operating system. Things start to get OS specific when address reuse comes into play. We start with BSD, since as I said above, it is the mother of all socket implementations.
BSD
SO_REUSEADDR
If SO_REUSEADDR is enabled on a socket prior to binding it, the socket can be successfully bound unless there is a conflict with another socket bound to exactly the same combination of source address and port. Now you may wonder how is that any different than before? The keyword is "exactly". SO_REUSEADDR mainly changes the way how wildcard addresses ("any IP address") are treated when searching for conflicts.
Without SO_REUSEADDR binding socketA to 0.0.0.0:21 and then binding socketB to 192.168.0.1:21 will fail (with error EADDRINUSE), since 0.0.0.0 means "any local IP address", thus all local IP addresses are considered in use by this socket and this includes 192.168.0.1, too. With SO_REUSEADDR it will succeed, since 0.0.0.0 and 192.168.0.1 are not exactly the same address, one is a wildcard for all local addresses and the other one is a very specific local address. Note that the statement above is true regardless in which order socketA and socketB are bound; without SO_REUSEADDR it will always fail, with SO_REUSEADDR it will always succeed.
To give you a better overview, let's make a table here and list all possible combinations:
SO_REUSEADDR socketA socketB Result
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ON/OFF 192.168.0.1:21 192.168.0.1:21 Error (EADDRINUSE)
ON/OFF 192.168.0.1:21 10.0.0.1:21 OK
ON/OFF 10.0.0.1:21 192.168.0.1:21 OK
OFF 0.0.0.0:21 192.168.1.0:21 Error (EADDRINUSE)
OFF 192.168.1.0:21 0.0.0.0:21 Error (EADDRINUSE)
ON 0.0.0.0:21 192.168.1.0:21 OK
ON 192.168.1.0:21 0.0.0.0:21 OK
ON/OFF 0.0.0.0:21 0.0.0.0:21 Error (EADDRINUSE)
The table above assumes that socketA has already been successfully bound to the address given for socketA, then socketB is created, either gets SO_REUSEADDR set or not, and finally is bound to the address given for socketB. Result is the result of the bind operation for socketB. If the first column says ON/OFF, the value of SO_REUSEADDR is irrelevant to the result.
Okay, SO_REUSEADDR has an effect on wildcard addresses, good to know. Yet that isn't it's only effect it has. There is another well known effect which is also the reason why most people use SO_REUSEADDR in server programs in the first place. For the other important use of this option we have to take a deeper look on how the TCP protocol works.
A socket has a send buffer and if a call to the send() function succeeds, it does not mean that the requested data has actually really been sent out, it only means the data has been added to the send buffer. For UDP sockets, the data is usually sent it pretty soon, if not immediately, but for TCP sockets, there can be relatively long delay between adding data to the send buffer and having the TCP implementation really send that data. As a result, when you close a TCP socket, there may still be pending data in the send buffer, which has not been sent yet but your code considers it as sent, since the send() call succeeded. If the TCP implementation was closing the socket immediately on your request, all of this data would be lost and your code wouldn't even know about that. TCP is said to be a reliable protocol and losing data just like that is not very reliable. That's why a socket that still has data to send will go into a state called TIME_WAIT when you close it. In that state it will wait until all pending data has been successfully sent or until a timeout is hit, in which case the socket is closed forcefully.
The amount of time the kernel will wait before it closes the socket, regardless if it still has pending send data or not, is called the Linger Time. The Linger Time is globally configurable on most systems and by default rather long (two minutes is a common value you will find on many systems). It is also configurable per socket using the socket option SO_LINGER which can be used to make the timeout shorter or longer, and even to disable it completely. Disabling it completely is a very bad idea, though, since closing a TCP socket gracefully is a slightly complex process and involves sending forth and back a couple of packets (as well as resending those packets in case they got lost) and this whole close process is also limited by the Linger Time. If you disable lingering, your socket may not only lose pending data, it is also always closed forcefully instead of gracefully, which is usually not recommended. The details about how a TCP connection is closed gracefully are beyond the scope of this answer, if you want to learn more about, I recommend you have a look at this page. And even if you disabled lingering with SO_LINGER, if your process dies without explicitly closing the socket, BSD (and possibly other systems) will linger nonetheless, ignoring what you have configured. This will happen for example if your code just calls exit() (pretty common for tiny, simple server programs) or the process is killed by a signal (which includes the possibility that it simply crashes because of an illegal memory access). So there is nothing you can do to make sure a socket will never linger under all circumstances.
The question is, how does the system treat a socket in state TIME_WAIT? If SO_REUSEADDR is not set, a socket in state TIME_WAIT is considered to still be bound to the source address and port and any attempt to bind a new socket to the same address and port will fail until the socket has really been closed, which may take as long as the configured Linger Time. So don't expect that you can rebind the source address of a socket immediately after closing it. In most cases this will fail. However, if SO_REUSEADDR is set for the socket you are trying to bind, another socket bound to the same address and port in state TIME_WAIT is simply ignored, after all its already "half dead", and your socket can bind to exactly the same address without any problem. In that case it plays no role that the other socket may have exactly the same address and port. Note that binding a socket to exactly the same address and port as dying socket in TIME_WAIT state can have unexpected, and usually undesired, side effects in case the other socket is still "at work" but that is beyond the scope of this answer and fortunately those side effects are rather rare in practice.
There is one final thing you should know about SO_REUSEADDR. Everything written above will work as long as the socket you want to bind has address reuse enabled. It is not necessary that the other socket, the one which is already bound or is in a TIME_WAIT state, also had this flag set when it was bound. The code that decides if the bind will success or fail only inspects the SO_REUSEADDR flag of the socket fed into the bind() call, for all other sockets inspected, this flag is not even looked at.
SO_REUSEPORT
SO_REUSEPORT is what most people would expect SO_REUSEADDR to be. Basically SO_REUSEPORT allows you to bind an arbitrary number of sockets to exactly the same source address and port as long as all prior bound sockets also had SO_REUSEPORT set before they were bound. If the first socket that is bound to an address and port does not have SO_REUSEPORT set, no other socket can be bound to exactly the same address and port, regardless if this other socket has SO_REUSEPORT set or not, until the first socket releases its binding again. Unlike in case of SO_REUESADDR the code handling SO_REUSEPORT will not only verify that the currently bound socket has SO_REUSEPORT set but it will also verify that the socket with a conflicting address and port had SO_REUSEADDR set when it was bound.
SO_REUSEPORT does not imply SO_REUSEADDR. This means if a socket did not have SO_REUSEPORT set when it was bound and another socket has SO_REUSEPORT set when it is bound to exactly the same address and port, the bind fails, which is expected, but it also fails if the other socket is already dying and is in TIME_WAIT state. To be able bind a socket to the same addresses and port as another socket in TIME_WAIT state requires either SO_REUSEADDR to be set on that socket or SO_REUSEPORT must have been set on both sockets prior to binding them. Of course it is allowed to set both, SO_REUSEPORT and SO_REUSEADDR, on a socket.
There is not much more to say about SO_REUSEPORT other than that it was added later than SO_REUSEADDR, that's why you will not find it in many socket implementations of other systems, which "forked" the BSD code before this option was added, and that there was no way to bind two sockets to exactly the same socket address in BSD prior to this option.
Connect() Returning EADDRINUSE?
Most people know that bind() may fail with the error EADDRINUSE, however, when you start playing around with address reuse, you may run into the strange situation that connect() fails with that error as well. How can this be? How can a remote address, after all that's what connect adds to a socket, be already in use? Connecting multiple sockets to exactly the same remote address has never been a problem before, so what's going wrong here?
As I said on the very top of my reply, a connection is defined by a tuple of five values, remember? And I also said, that these five values must be unique otherwise the system cannot distinguish two connections any longer, right? Well, with address reuse, you can bind two sockets of the same protocol to the same source address and port. That means three of those five values are already the same for these two sockets. If you now try to connect both of these sockets also to the same destination address and port, you would create two connected sockets, whose tuples are absolutely identical. This cannot work, at least not for TCP connections (UDP connections are no real connections anyway). If data arrived for either one of the two connections, the system could not tell which connection the data belongs to. At least the destination address or destination port must be different for either connection, so that the system has no problem to identify to which connection incoming data belongs to.
So if you bind two sockets of the same protocol to the same source address and port and try to connect them both to the same destination address and port, connect() will actually fail with the error EADDRINUSE for the second socket you try to connect, which means that a socket with an identical tuple of five values is already connected.
Multicast Addresses
Most people ignore the fact that multicast addresses exist, but they do exist. While unicast addresses are used for one-to-one communication, multicast addresses are used for one-to-many communication. Most people got aware of multicast addresses when they learned about IPv6 but multicast addresses also existed in IPv4, even though this feature was never widely used on the public Internet.
The meaning of SO_REUSEADDR changes for multicast addresses as it allows multiple sockets to be bound to exactly the same combination of source multicast address and port. In other words, for multicast addresses SO_REUSEADDR behaves exactly as SO_REUSEPORT for unicast addresses. Actually the code treats SO_REUSEADDR and SO_REUSEPORT identically for multicast addresses, that means you could says that SO_REUSEADDR implies SO_REUSEPORT for all multicast addresses and the other way round.
FreeBSD/OpenBSD/NetBSD
All these are rather late forks of the original BSD code, that's why
they all three offer the same options as BSD and they also behave the
same way as in BSD.
MacOS X
At its very core, MacOS X is simply a BSD-style UNIX, based on a
rather late fork of the BSD code, which was even synchronized with
FreeBSD 5 for the Mac OS 10.3 release. That's why MacOS X offers the
same options as BSD and they also behave the same way as in BSD.
iOS
iOS is just modified MacOS X at its core, so everything that applies to MacOS X also applies to iOS.
Linux
Prior to Linux 3.9, only the option SO_REUSEADDR
existed. This option behaves generally the as in BSD with two important
exceptions. One exception is that a if a listening (server) TCP socket
is already bound to a wildcard IP address and a specific port, no other
TCP socket can be bound to the same port, regardless whether either one
or both sockets have this flag set. Not even if it would use a more
specific address (as is allowed in case of BSD). This restriction does
not apply to non-listening (client) TCP sockets and it is also possible
to first bind a listening TCP socket to a specific IP address and port
combination and later on bind another one to a wildcard IP address and
the same port. The second exception is that for UDP sockets this option
behaves exactly like SO_REUSEPORT in BSD, so two UDP
sockets can be bound to exactly the same address and port combination as
long as both had this flag set before they were bound.
Linux 3.9 added the option SO_REUSEPORT to Linux as
well. This option allows two (or more) sockets, TCP or UDP, listening
(server) or non-listening (client), to be bound to exactly the same
address and port combination as long as all sockets (including the very
first one) had this flag set prior to binding them. To prevent "port
hijacking", there is one special limitation, though: All sockets that
want to share the same address and port combination must belong to
processes that share the same effective user ID! So one user cannot
"steal" ports of another user. Additionally the kernel performs some "special magic" for SO_REUSEPORT
sockets that isn't found in any other operating system so far: For UDP
sockets, it tries to distribute datagrams evenly, for TCP listening
sockets, it tries to distribute incoming connect requests (those
accepted by calling accept()) evenly across all the
sockets that share the same address and port combination. That means
while it is more or less random which socket receives a datagram or
connect request in other operating systems that allow full address
reuse, Linux tries to optimize distribution so that, for example,
multiple instances of a simple server process can easily use SO_REUSEPORT
sockets to achieve a kind of simple load balancing and that absolutely
for free as the kernel is doing "all the hard work" for them.
Android
Even though the whole Android system is somewhat different from most
Linux distributions, at its core works a slightly modified Linux kernel,
thus everything that applies to Linux applies to Android as well.
Windows
Windows only knows the SO_REUSEADDR option, there is no SO_REUSEPORT. Setting SO_REUSEADDR on a socket in Windows behaves like setting SO_REUSEPORT and SO_REUSEADDR on a socket in BSD, with one exception: A socket with SO_REUSEADDR can always bind to exactly the same source address and port as an already bound socket, even if the other socket did not have this option set when it was bound.
This behavior is somewhat dangerous because it allows an application
"to steal" the connected port of another application. Needless to say,
this can have major security implications. Microsoft realized that this
might be a problem and thus added another socket option SO_EXCLUSIVEADDRUSE. Setting SO_EXCLUSIVEADDRUSE
on a socket makes sure that if the binding succeeds, the combination of
source address and port is owned exclusively by this socket and no
other socket can bind to them, not even if it has SO_REUSEADDR set.
Solaris
Solaris is the successor of SunOS. SunOS was originally based on a
fork of BSD, SunOS 5 and later was based on a fork of SVR4, however SVR4
is a merge of BSD, System V, and Xenix, so up to some degree Solaris is
also a BSD fork, and a rather early one. As a result Solaris only knowsSO_REUSEADDR, there is no SO_REUSEPORT. The SO_REUSEADDR behaves pretty much the same as it does in BSD. As far as I know there is no way to get the same behavior as SO_REUSEPORT in Solaris, that means it is not possible to bind two address to exactly the same address and port.
Similar to Windows, Solaris has an option to give a socket an exclusive binding. This option is named SO_EXCLBIND. If this option is set on a socket prior to binding it, setting SO_REUSEADDR on another socket has no effect if the two sockets are tested for an address conflict. E.g. if socketA is bound to a wildcard address and socketB has SO_REUSEADDR enabled and is bound to a non-wildcard address and the same port as socketA, this bind will normally succeed, unless socketA had SO_EXCLBIND enabled, in which case it will fail regardless the SO_REUSEADDR flag of socketB.